The fear of being honest. Isn't that something you've struggled with at some point in your relationship? Well I'm sure more than once. They belief is that honesty can be hurtful to the other person and therefore could have negative repercussions for you. Perhaps make you feel like a hurtful person, guilty, responsible for damaging the relationship and so on. I would like you to think again however. There is one way to point out the negative repercussions of dishonesty. Suppose you were the "other" and your partner was facing the choice as to whether to be honest with you or not about something. Which would you prefer? Him or her to be honest or dishonest? In other words would you prefer to be lied to, to be led along as if you were thought of as an emotionally weak or vulnerable individual? How would this make you feel? Well of course diminished, angry, betrayed, and hurt to name a few. On the other hand if you were told the truth, as hard as it might be to hear, would this not make you feel like you were being respected as a human being, like this was an act of love or caring, like you were considered a strong and together person? Of course it would! Whether you consider yourself a strong person or not is another matter however. If this is an issue for you perhaps you might wish to read my articles on Self Esteem here in this ezine. You see lacking self esteem is one of the root causes of the need to be dishonest with one's self and with others. I think you can see that there is a vicious cycle that becomes set up, so to speak, between the level of one's self esteem and the degree to which one "chooses" to be honest. The cycle goes like this: Low Self Esteem leads to a fear of the truth which leads to being dishonest which leads back to (and further enhances) one's low self esteem. The cycle is difficult to break if one has been caught in it for some time. One's history of personal dishonesty is "stored" as memories in one's mind and body and drags one down into it. There is a new modality however that can help you release all of this toxicity and break the cycle outlined above. It is called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) (MRP). Some of the many benefits include greatly improved self esteem, self confidence and self worth, greater emotional resilience, inner strength, improved relationships, the ability to be in the truth always and so on. To learn more about MRP or to arrange an introductory telephone consultation kindly visit the web link below. |
